Pushing the River - or Not!

 How many times have your caught yourself trying to make things work rather than allowing them to work in your own divine order. After you read this, we would love to hear your responses - thank you, Katie and Bonnie

Resistance is Futile! What we resist persists! Whatever we remember to say to ourselves can make all the difference. I think we can all see when we review our own lives, that those times where we tried to push the river, resist change, or make things work out exactly as we wanted - were not our best or most productive times. At least I can speak for myself, the times when I was 'efforting' to make things work the way I thought they 'should', I often missed terrific opportunities that were right there waiting for me. And when I relaxed into my life and paid attention to what was coming my way, life was much more agreeable. 

Katie

There is a huge difference in results between trying and allowing. Trying is what we have been taught in our culture is the right thing to do. Try and try again. What if allowing actually gave us the outcomes we were seeking--without all the spinning of the wheels, worry and beating our heads against the wall?

Something as simple as allowing is a concept many of us have trouble with because it seems like we aren't 'doing' anything.

Trying is the energy of searching but never finding. It is the realm of the conscious mind and contributes to stress, unhappiness, even ill health. As long as you focus your efforts on trying, you prevent yourself from having.

Allowing, on the other hand, is the realm of Source mind, our greater capacity. It is the energy of having, of achieving, of succeeding. It is not a passive state--but actually quite active. When you are in allowing, you are open to receive inspiration and inspired action.

Very different attitudes, different outcomes and different energies used.
Plus allowing is just more fun once you get the hang of it! 

Bonnie

I Claim My Value

It seems as if I have been listening to a lot of clients, and reading a lot of blogs and articles about women not recognizing their value. Just this morning on the news there was a special discussion on how women are still making 67 cents on the dollar that men make.

And part of the reason is that women rarely negotiate a starting salary, and are very uncomfortable asking for a raise. Men don't seem to have those same filters as a whole. According to the discussion group (that was made up of both men and women) the average man doesn't even think about his right to negotiate his value to a company, it is a part of his standard DNA programming. Obviously this is an average, not every man feels his full value, all the time. What is important for us as women, is to know that our standard DNA programming often includes deep questions about our personal value and a deep-seated imperative to compare ourselves with others, often to our detriment.

How are you addressing this in yourself? What are you doing to release those old DNA programs and replace them with new beliefs? How are you creating new DNA with beliefs that make your life new in the sense of stepping out in your courage and your acceptance and belief in your own true value?

Love and blessings, Katie

Break your trance of scarcity and breathe again

Break Your Trance of Scarcity First in a series of Brave Woman teleseminars  October 22nd 9:00 am PDT $29

“If struggling was the way to get there, we'd be there by now." Victoria Castle There is no question that scarcity exists.  It is also true that abundance exists as a reality as well.  So the question is – which reality are you currently living?  Are you satisfied with your life or is there something greater that you want to experience? Living in scarcity is living in a trance that squeezes the joy of life right out of you. It eclipses your greatness and stops you short of achieving your heart’s desire. It is a very real experience—and it is easily broken!  Like any trance state you can wake up from it.  All you need are a few simple tools -- which you get in this teleseminar. When you hold a belief in ‘not-enoughness’ you are stuck in patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviors that run counter to what you really want in life. We all live in a trance of our own creation.  Old habits and automatic reactions become hard-wired into your neurology and then you find yourself caught in a web of what you don’t want but not sure how to break free. There IS Life on the other side of the trance.  A life filled with love, abundance, great health, fulfillment, joy and success.  But first you must wake up from your current trance. This teleseminar show you exactly HOW to wake up and stay awake! Sign me up!   Your Trance of Scarcity is a story you learned to tell yourself at a young age about the reality of life. “I’m not enough. There is never enough. It’s too hard. Nobody cares.  Settle for less. I’m not worthy, deserving, valuable.”  It becomes your way of living, your day-to-day reality, directing your actions according to unconscious programming.  What you expect to show up in your life—does.  Beliefs of lack, struggle, and separation begin to define your reality and you forget to question what is true. But—and here is the key to waking from your trance—when you feel stuck in a never ending cycle of lack or trapped with nowhere to turn questioning your personal reality is a good thing! Being fully present in your life breaks the trance and opens you to new choices and new experiences.  Breaking the trance of scarcity wakes you up—and keeps you awake. In this teleseminar you learn to:  Break your trance of scarcity Be fully present in your life Clear blocks that keep you trapped Quickly transform your life with simple tools Embody a state of abundance To embody abundance means to live in a state of fullness and flow, being open to receiving and having different than you have now. You do all that and much more in this Brave Woman teleseminar: Break Your Trance of Scarcity Break free of the fears, dead-ends and frustrations of your life now! October 22nd 9:00 am PDT $29 Register Now! Take this Journey of Courage with other women wanting what you want—to live an Authentic Life as the Brave Woman that you are.    As always, this teleseminar includes intensive belief work along with a special meditation to enhance and integrate your healing. Upon registration you will receive a handout with a brief exercise.  Completing this exercise before the teleseminar will greatly enhance your healing experience. Can’t attend live? No worries!  This teleseminar will be recorded and the free replay made available to you the next day. We are excited to see you there! Bonnie & Katie

Can You Believe.....

Can you believe we are in the holiday season - AGAIN!  It seems hard to believe that spring and summer are far behind and it is almost Halloween in the U.S.  Talk about being a Brave Woman - who in most cultures carries the holidays? In my family of origin and the communities that I grew up in, it is us - the women of the family. We tend to carry the traditions and responsibilites (and the blessings), of the holidays.

 If that is true for you please add your comments and suggestions to this conversation. Those of you who have known Bonnie and I for a long time know that we focus parts of what we teach to moving from survival to thrival in all that we do. We recognize your issues, but we put the power of solutions first in our own lives and in how we teach and coach.

In my own life, I 'lost' both parents on holidays - I mean the actual days! My dad passed on Easter Day and my mom on Christmas Day. They are certainly not 'lost' at all, I know exactly where they are, and it is good. So how do I keep the holidays good for me? I embrace time with my dearest friends. I serve meals at Shelters, I call my elderly cousin in Assisted living back east, I serve myself by loving time with others.

Helen Keller said, Life is a great adventure, or it is nothing at all. And I add to that Life is fulfilling and joyful, or it is nothing at all - and I am the one who decides how that happens. I make the choice to be happy or not.  And by the way, Abraham Lincoln said, People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be. So, I make up my mind to be happy.


Use the tools you have to keep yourself in joy, I use The One Command and Ho'oponopono and certain things I read everyday, like my own journal and TUT online, and other things that joyfully show up in my inbox.

The sun is out in WA state today - as much as I love the rain - the sun makes it a happy day.

Love and blessings, Katie

We did it! WooHoo!

We did it!  Today our Brave Woman vision was successfully launched with our free teleseminar Command Your Courage-Unlock Your Greatness.  The vision that we have held so dearly and worked so diligently to bring into being is here and we are so very grateful for the hundreds of women (and men!) who registered to help us launch our dream.

And a special thank you to our Angels of Support--women we love dearly who helped spread the word about this new global community for women supporting women in living their greatness, their power and their courage.  We could not have done it without your encouragement and support.

Not only do you have this blog as a resource for support, we have created a yahoo group called The Brave Woman where you can connect directly with other women to discuss topics of interest, ask questions and share stories about living The Brave Woman Within.

To join the Brave Woman yahoo group visit http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/thebravewoman

Next step in the vision is the series of teleseminars we are offering design to
help you throw open the curtains and step into the Light of your greatness.

Set your calendar for October 22nd at 9:00 pacific time for
The Brave Woman:  Breaking Your Trance of Scarcity!

We are interested in what you have to say about being the Brave Woman in your life.  Where are you struggling and what do you need?  Where are you succeeding and how can we support you in even greater success?

Let's hear from you!  This group is for every Brave Woman.

We witness your greatness,

Bonnie and Katie

Hi - just in case you haven't heard - we have a terrific free seminar coming up for you on October 8th. It is a teleseminar so it is easy to attend either by phone or as a webcast, and if you can't attend - then sign up anyway and listen to the free replay after the seminar.

Most of you know that our free seminars are fully functional seminars - meaning - you learn real stuff AND you get into thrival mode with The One Command process and with one of Bonnie's brilliant meditations. All our classes are designed to be transformational on all levels of your life.

Email bonnie@inner-resources.net or katie@commandingwealth.com if you have more questions.

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom.

Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”

Tao Te Ching

We believe that every woman carries the seeds within her of true wisdom and true power. But the question is—Do you believe it of yourself?

Have you been sensing a:

• Restlessness that won’t go away no matter how much you ignore it
• Destiny calling you to something greater—but are afraid to answer
• Desire to share your values and vision with others—but don’t know how
• Need to step out now and just do it—whatever your “It” may be

Or are you tired of constantly Performing, Pleasing, Perfecting and Proving

to others that you are worthy and deserving?

This really is an exciting time to be a woman right now. Things are changing

and possibilities abound for you as a woman. You feel it, but you may not believe it yet.

Begin your transformation process of greater self-love, self-acceptance and coming ‘home’ to your body in new ways right now.

Using the simple, yet powerful 6-step process of The One Command, you let go
of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace, honor and respect your

Brave Woman.

In this teleseminar you: 

• Remember how good it feels to be a woman
• Find the courage to live as a Brave Woman
• Feel the connectedness with all women and the earth that nourishes you
• Experience the power of change with The One Command

Awaken the Brave Woman in you now.

Take this Journey of Courage with other women wanting what you want—to live an Authentic Life as the Brave Woman that you are.

Take the first step on your Journey of Courage now in this Free Teleseminar—Command Your Courage—Unlock Your Greatness.

Register Now for this free teleseminar

Invite your women friends to join you on this Free Teleseminar. We have built a support system for all women to gather together for encouragement, support, love and acceptance. And we’ll talk more about the many ways you can participate on October 8th.

As always, this teleseminar includes intensive belief work using The One Command along with a special meditation to enhance and integrate your healing.

Upon registration you will receive a handout with a brief exercise. Completing

this exercise before the teleseminar will greatly enhance your healing experience.

Can’t attend live? No worries! This teleseminar will be recorded and the

free replay made available to you the next day.

We are excited to see you there!

Bonnie & Katie

My mother, my Self

I was watching a tv show earlier today and heard something that struck me as really profound—at least for me and my relationship with my mother.

Mothers are responsible for us being here.  Like a bus they get us here.  The problem we run into is that we often spend our life trying to get back on the bus rather than living our own lives.

Now this comment was made talking about all of us—men & women alike.  But it got me to thinking about women and the relationship we’ve had with our mothers.  How in my life was I trying to ‘get back on the bus’, meaning living either my mother’s life or the life my mother trained me to have?

It didn’t take long to uncover that parts of me were still trying to live my mother’s expectations of what a ‘good’ wife, mother and woman is.  Growing up in the 50s & 60s with a mother who gave up all of who she was & was seriously depressed most of my life and a father who took a dim view on any female being an independent thinker, I learned that to be considered

‘good & proper’ as my mother put it, I must always put myself last no matter what I had to give up or how miserable I was.

I learned that ‘good’ women didn’t work, stayed emotionally & financially dependent upon the man, and that doing anything else was ‘bad’ and bad things happened to ‘bad’ women.  Because I grew up with an Italian father it was called the Madonna/Whore thing.  If you conformed to what a good woman was then you were a Madonna—pure, but helpless with no thought for yourself.  Anything else left you with just being the Whore…and we all know what society thinks of whores.  To this day I still cringe when I see or hear that word, but words have no more power to harm than we give them.  So I take back the power to live my own life on my own terms--and still be loved, accepted and successful as my Self.

Interesting dilemma that has put me in over my adult years.  And I was surprised to find that still part of my core identity even with all the healing work I’ve done over the years.  Yet, there it was—staring me right in the face and asking me what I was going to do about it.  Keep it and continue on the path I’m on or stand up as the Brave Woman that I know I am and say

No Way!  That is NOT me!

So I took some time to figure out what I wanted to believe about myself as a woman and about my life and commanded the changes.  That old feeling of conflict within no longer holds the power over my life.  Yes, I still feel some charge around that—and why wouldn’t I?  It was my early training and became an unconscious part of my identity as a woman.  So, yes, there is still

more healing work to do around it.  But the important part is that—now I see it and have looked that lie straight in the face and said—THIS is who I really am and THIS is how I live my life now.  I again awaken the Brave Woman that lies within and invite her to step forth and be engaged in my life.

So—how are you still trying to get back on that ‘bus’?

How are you living from an old, out-dated belief system that has never really been you?

And what do you want instead?

I witness your courage and your Brave Woman Within,

Bonnie

Breathing into your Brave Woman soul

To awaken and nurture that Brave Woman that lies within you, spend a few moments every day just being with her as you would your best friend.

As you invite her to be more active in your life, you will be amazed at the changes you notice within yourself and within others around you.

So your Brave Woman mantra for today is:

Breathe and be Whole in the joy of being You.

Remember Everyone - We Have a Great Free Seminar for You!

Hi - just in case you haven't heard - we have a terrific free seminar coming up for you on October 8th. It is a teleseminar so it is easy to attend either by phone or as a webcast, and if you can't attend - then sign up anyway and listen to the free replay after the seminar.

Most of you know that our free seminars are fully functional seminars - meaning - you learn real stuff AND you get into thrival mode with The One Command process and with one of Bonnie's brilliant meditations.  All our classes are designed to be transformational on all levels of your life.

Email bonnie@inner-resources.net or katie@commandingwealth.com if you have more questions.

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. 

Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.” 

Tao Te Ching

We believe that every woman carries the seeds within her of true wisdom and true power. But the question is—Do you believe it of yourself?

Have you been sensing a:

• Restlessness that won’t go away no matter how much you ignore it
• Destiny calling you to something greater—but are afraid to answer
• Desire to share your values and vision with others—but don’t know how
• Need to step out now and just do it—whatever your “It” may be

Or are you tired of constantly Performing, Pleasing, Perfecting and Proving

to others that you are worthy and deserving?

This really is an exciting time to be a woman right now.  Things are changing

and possibilities abound for you as a woman.  You feel it, but you may not believe

it yet. 

Begin your transformation process of greater self-love, self-acceptance and coming ‘home’ to your body in new ways right now. 

Using the simple, yet powerful 6-step process of The One Command, you let go

of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace, honor and respect your

Brave Woman.

In this teleseminar you:

• Remember how good it feels to be a woman
• Find the courage to live as a Brave Woman
• Feel the connectedness with all women and the earth that nourishes you
• Experience the power of change with The One Command

 Awaken the Brave Woman in you now.

  

Take this Journey of Courage with other women wanting what you want—to live an Authentic Life as the Brave Woman that you are.

Take the first step on your Journey of Courage now in this Free Teleseminar—Command Your Courage—Unlock Your Greatness.

Register Now for this free teleseminar

Invite your women friends to join you on this Free Teleseminar.  We have built a support system for all women to gather together for encouragement, support, love and acceptance.  And we’ll talk more about the many ways you can participate on October 8th.

As always, this teleseminar includes intensive belief work using The One Command along with a special meditation to enhance and integrate your healing.

Upon registration you will receive a handout with a brief exercise.  Completing

this exercise before the teleseminar will greatly enhance your healing experience.

Can’t attend live? No worries!  This teleseminar will be recorded and the

free replay made available to you the next day.

We are excited to see you there!

Bonnie & Katie